Emilia Clarke on Jimmy Kimmel Live
By Winter Is Coming on in Press.

Emilia Clarke was a guest on Jimmy Kimmel Live last night. A few other Game of Thrones actors have had a chance to go on late night talk shows and talk up the show, but this is, I believe, Emilia Clarke’s first time. Watch her appearance in two parts below.

Part two is after the break.

Winter Is Coming: Emilia did a smashing job, she was charming and lovely as usual. Who else from the cast would you like to see on a late night talk show?


94 Comments

  1. Kosis
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 8:04 am | Permalink

    Qwarth.

    Definitely interested in hearing from a few Northerners after the conclusion of season 3.

  2. Renee
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 8:26 am | Permalink

    Thanks for sharing this, so looking forward to next season. I always fall asleep befor JK comes on the TV.

  3. Steel_Wind
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 8:38 am | Permalink

    As ever, Emilia Clarke is never more likeable and wholly endearing than when she is being herself.

  4. Hilda
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 8:42 am | Permalink

    She is too cute! I want to see Maisie and Kit on the late night circuit!

  5. Michael Harper
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 8:43 am | Permalink

    By the Old Gods and the New, I have gotta say…Emilia Clarke is just about the hottest person on this planet! :D

  6. femputer
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 8:45 am | Permalink

    she is just too adorable. that grin, that goofy giggle! not your typical hollywood gal. i love her!

  7. Young Wolf
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 8:57 am | Permalink

    She is really adorable. That smile is precious!

  8. Ed
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 9:39 am | Permalink

    God she is beautiful.

    I just LOVE her!

  9. Chris Umber
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 9:48 am | Permalink

    Um Guys? Aren’t we all missing the major headline to come out of this interview??

    EMILIA CLAKRE TO BE NAKED AGAIN IN SEASON THREE AFTER A FULL SEASON WITH CLOTHES ON!!!

    Well that’s what I took from this :D

  10. Ryan Genualdi
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 9:49 am | Permalink

    She is perfect. My god. <3

  11. Zack
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 10:18 am | Permalink

    I love her :)

    I imagine it would be pretty tough to have to deal with family when one’s job involves numerous scenes of extended nudity, lol. I was glad to hear her not denying any such scenes for next season as well, I think ‘no-nudity’ clauses when it’s called for are unfortunate, and it’s cool she is apparently willing to still do a bit though she’s now a breakout star.

    Also I should probably watch Kimmel more often.

  12. Dead Neds Head
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 10:38 am | Permalink

    You got punched by a hooker!? classic.

  13. mags giantsbabe
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 10:49 am | Permalink

    I can’t watch this yet because I’m on my phone, but would love to see Kit and Rose doing a talk show together if they are ever willing :) but Emilia rocks, I started liking her even more when I saw the CC panel last year.

  14. House Farwynd
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 10:54 am | Permalink

    That last question on Part 1 made me all the more excited for season 3!

  15. Shar
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 11:28 am | Permalink

    She’s great, I love her in the show. I also loved the audience reaction to her introduction. We will have more GOT fans.

  16. sbj2k1
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 11:29 am | Permalink

    “Everybody has an uncle Ken.”
    lolz

  17. sjwenings
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 11:32 am | Permalink

    So when in season 3 would she be naked? I suppose with the all-grown up Missandei, there could be a suitable replacement in her for Irri. Or maybe they’ll speed up her physical relationship with Daario?

  18. Mags giantsbabe
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 11:38 am | Permalink

    It’s fantastic that Emilia’s starring on broadway in Breakfast at Tiffany’s, I would love to see her in that ;D

  19. Varamyr Fourskins
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 12:11 pm | Permalink

    Chris Umber,

    Yeah, but… it’s going to be bittersweet for Dany’s fanboys because of Daario. Judging by the forums over at Westeros, he’s probably the most hated character in the entire series, other than perhaps Joffrey, and he doesn’t even do anything particularly wrong… other than eat his beef wit gold teef, of course.

  20. Al Swearengen
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 12:14 pm | Permalink

    Damn Seth McFarlane is one luck dude.

  21. Al Swearengen
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 12:28 pm | Permalink

    Wow she was punched by a hooker in Vietnam lol.

  22. Aoife
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 12:35 pm | Permalink

    Chris Umber:
    Um Guys? Aren’t we all missing the major headline to come out of this interview??

    EMILIA CLAKRE TO BE NAKED AGAIN IN SEASON THREE AFTER A FULL SEASON WITH CLOTHES ON!!!

    Well that’s what I took from this :D

    To be honest, I’d rather hear that Nikolaj Coster-Waldau is gonna be shirtless in a tub in S3! ;-P

  23. Grijnwaald
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 12:51 pm | Permalink

    Hilda,

    Yeah me too, in fact, I want to see all the Stark kids again! I think they’re just wonderful.

  24. Cary Storm
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 12:58 pm | Permalink

    Varamyr Fourskins,

    I agree. I don’t get the Daario hate. It happens at Wicgeeks too. Even the Daario emoticon gets followed up by the word “douchebag” in chat.

  25. Delta1212
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 1:24 pm | Permalink

    Yeah, I’ve never understood the Daario hate, either. I think he’s a slightly goofy character, personally, but that’s about all I can say for him in either direction. It’s a rather extreme reaction to a pretty minor character.

  26. Simbelmyne
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 1:30 pm | Permalink

    I would like to see Iain Glen and Tom Wlaschiha :)

  27. mags giantsbabe
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 1:41 pm | Permalink

    All the Stark siblings together in one interview would be really great ;)

    Why do people hate him? I haven’t read aDwD yet…

  28. sunspear
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 1:53 pm | Permalink

    Delta1212,

    Daario became the symbol for all the fan hatred of the Meereen plotline/Dany’s bad decision making/filler in ADWD. It really isn’t against him personally.

  29. Tanya
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 1:54 pm | Permalink

    omg this interview is so cute. emilia <3

  30. Mrs. H'ghar
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 1:59 pm | Permalink

    Lovely interview! Lovely lady! A woman thought that Emilia should have gotten an Emmy nod for her first season…she went through such a drastic transformation as a character, she really deserved it. Sigh. Maybe next season she’ll get a shot again…we shall see. Can’t wait.

  31. Tyrion4Lyfe
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 2:01 pm | Permalink

    Emilia has such an attractive personality, and she is pretty good looking as well. She should have no issues finding a good mate.

  32. dizzy
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 2:26 pm | Permalink

    “Is she going to get in the war?”
    The dreaded question from the casual viewer… uh oh.

  33. Ser Tahu
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 2:29 pm | Permalink

    Varamyr Fourskins,

    I would say that Ramsay is more hated as well. I personally hate Ramsay far more than Joffrey, and hope that his face gets flayed off at some point before the series ends.

  34. Nezzer
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 2:32 pm | Permalink

    mags giantsbabe:
    All the Stark siblings together in one interview would be really great ;)

    Yeah I’d like it too, but I bet they’d forget Rickon.

  35. Zack
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 2:44 pm | Permalink

    sunspear,

    Indeed so. He could have been the most interesting man in the world (he’s clearly not though), but if the POV chapter is Dany’s and all she can do is pine for him for endless pages then I would have hated him just the same. It’s all on Dany’s lack of a presence (but not page numbers) for much of that book.

  36. Selmy
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 2:53 pm | Permalink

    I think season 3 is too soon to have Dany and Daario sleep together. I was thinking maybe Irri pleasuring Dany, but they pulled the plug on that in season 2. Maybe Missandei and Dany? That would be awesome. Awesome.

  37. Tyrion Pimpslap
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 3:04 pm | Permalink

    I’m thinking Jorah walks in on Dany while she is bathing or getting dressed, and this is where he kisses her. Just because she may be nude in S3 does not mean it is during a sex scene.

  38. Colty
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 3:06 pm | Permalink

    Her arms are kinda fat. Is she gaining weight?

  39. Al Swearengen
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 3:25 pm | Permalink

    Colty,

    Get out seriously just get out of here and bang your head on a brick wall.

  40. saark
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 3:59 pm | Permalink

    what an utter cutie-pie.

  41. Turncloak
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 4:14 pm | Permalink

    Chris Umber:
    Um Guys? Aren’t we all missing the major headline to come out of this interview??

    EMILIA CLAKRE TO BE NAKED AGAIN IN SEASON THREE AFTER A FULL SEASON WITH CLOTHES ON!!!

    Well that’s what I took from this :D

    THISS!!!!!

  42. Colty
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 4:27 pm | Permalink

    Al Swearengen,

    Just being honest!

  43. queenofthorns
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 5:18 pm | Permalink

    Tyrion Pimpslap,

    Yep, I think you’re right.

    At least I hope so. I really, really DNW Missandei x Dany.

  44. Nick_Scryer
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 5:30 pm | Permalink

    I HATE the fact that she will always be asked about nude scenes :(

    But saying that, I really want her to have a nude sex scene (Replacement for Irri) with Missandei :)

  45. Zack
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 5:33 pm | Permalink

    queenofthorns:
    Tyrion Pimpslap,

    Yep, I think you’re right.

    At least I hope so.I really, really DNW Missandei x Dany.

    Agreed. Horrible thought. I’m assuming that despite the aging-up of the character, their relationship will be pretty much the same, else why keep the name? Don’t ruin it with sex stuff.

  46. Bryan Davis
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 5:36 pm | Permalink

    Am I the only one left thats sooo friggin’ annoyed that people aren’t properly schooled on the names of the characters??? She needs to stop referring to herself as Khaleesi, and start calling herself Danaerys Targaryen!!!! I mean she’s not going to be Khaleesi forever. Whats going to happen in later seasons when people on the show drop the Khaleesi itle and only refer to her as Dany or Danaerys or Mother of Dragons??? im jusss sssayyinn

  47. Joshua Taylor
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 5:57 pm | Permalink

    Bryan Davis,

    Clearly Emilia Clarke has never used her full character’s name in the series. Nor has she utilized the Targ house words either.

    Seriously?

  48. Bryan Davis
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 6:06 pm | Permalink

    Joshua Taylor,

    THAT’S MY POINT!!!! I realize that they take some creative liberties when adapting from page to screen, BUT COME ON!!! They have to stick to the source material on some things, and I think this is one of them. She’s kind of a big deal, lol, she’s got one of the biggest parts to play overall. Why not do her justice and give her the titles and respect that’s do a Targaryen!!! She rides Drogon Later!!! NO Khal could have hoped to ever be that powerful!!

  49. Jambo
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 6:40 pm | Permalink

    Bryan Davis:
    Am I the only one left thats sooo friggin’ annoyed that people aren’t properly schooled on the names of the characters???She needs to stop referring to herself as Khaleesi, and start calling herself Danaerys Targaryen!!!!

    Yeah, I think it’s just you.

    She referred to her character as Dany here.

    And I think that was sarcasm from the comment above.

  50. Arkash
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 6:47 pm | Permalink

    The most annoying thing is when other people think her name is really “Khaleesi”… wanna slap them in the face !

    It’s Daenerys dammit !

    I’m not asking for Daenerys Stormborn of the House Targaryen of the Blood of Old Valyria, Khaleesi of the Dothraki, Mother of Slaves and Dragons, Queen of Meereen and Queen of Westeros, Lord of the Seven Kingdoms, the Rhoynar, the Andals and the First Men, Protector of the Realm, the First of Her Name.

    Just Dany, at least !

  51. Ser Tahu
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 6:49 pm | Permalink

    Bryan Davis,

    Umm, which show were you watching? The first 2/3 of season 2 can be summed up like this:
    Daenerys – ‘I AM DAENERYS STORMBORN OF HOUSE TARGARYEN!!! I WILL TAKE WHAT IS MINE WITH FIRE AND BLOOD!!!
    I AM DAENERYS STORMBORN OF HOUSE TARGARYEN!!! I WILL TAKE WHAT IS MINE WITH FIRE AND BLOOD!!!
    I AM DA-’
    Spice King – ‘Daenerys Stormborn of House Targaryen. We know.’

    Pretty much the only ones consistently calling her Khaleesi are her dothraki, and it makes sense for them to call her Khaleesi.

  52. Steven Swanson
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 6:50 pm | Permalink

    Delta1212: Yeah, I’ve never understood the Daario hate, either. I think he’s a slightly goofy character, personally, but that’s about all I can say for him in either direction. It’s a rather extreme reaction to a pretty minor character.

    He’s the slimy bad boy that gets the cute girl, is it any wonder the male nerd community has issues with him?

  53. Steven Swanson
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 6:52 pm | Permalink

    Colty: Al Swearengen, Just being honest!

    She’s never been a skinny little Hollywood girl, and thank the gods for that.

  54. Joshua Taylor
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 7:08 pm | Permalink

    That awkward moment when a sarcastic post is taken literally. Ummm…

  55. Eor75
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 7:41 pm | Permalink

    I always felt like some of the Daario hate came from people who were upset someone was fucking Dany. Daario is a swaggerish guy, like the captain of the football team in highschool, and the words people throw around make me think it’s almost jealousy, that Danny is serving for whatever girl they liked and Daario is the douchebag fucking her.

  56. Dan
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 8:27 pm | Permalink

    Steven Swanson,

    Ha! I’ve never really thought about it along those lines, but it makes perfect sense. Maybe that’s why I was never bothered by his character. Once I realized that being the nice guy kept getting me boxed into the friend zone, I ditched that approach for a more Darioesque approach to women. Eventually I grew out of that, but there is no denying that it’s a lot easier to avoid dry spells being the “bad boy” than actually being a stand up guy. It’s a shame, but that’s the way it is.

  57. Queenofthorns
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 9:10 pm | Permalink

    Dan,

    Um, no. The key is to neither be a whingeing, resentful, liar who pretends to be friends with women to get in their pants OR an asshole who fucks and runs. Try actually being a decent person and treating women like human beings. You’ll be surprised how well it works.

    Only “nice guys” finish last. Actually decent people who happen to be men finish first, and stay for the long haul.

    P.S. the friend zone doesn’t exist.

  58. The Young Wolf
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 9:31 pm | Permalink

    Arkash:
    The most annoying thing is when other people think her name is really “Khaleesi”… wanna slap them in the face !

    It’s Daenerys dammit !

    I’m not asking for Daenerys Stormborn of the House Targaryen of the Blood of Old Valyria, Khaleesi of the Dothraki, Mother of Slaves and Dragons, Queen of Meereen and Queen of Westeros, Lord of the Seven Kingdoms, the Rhoynar, the Andals and the First Men, Protector of the Realm, the First of Her Name.

    Just Dany, at least !

    It’s Khaleesi of the Great Grass Sea, and you forgot the Breaker of Shackles!

    As for someone I’d like to see on a talk show, I’m gonna go with Gwendoline Christie. Get some of the new characters some spotlight, and she seems pretty engaging in her interviews and on Twitter.

  59. Selmy
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 10:53 pm | Permalink

    As for Daario. I’ve always hated him because I know he’s not good for Dany. Quaithe warned Dany against him, I think (?). He wants her because she has power and is fucking sexy. He’s not in love with her. He could easily betray her and he’s kind of divising Dany’s thoughts. Here is my take on her thoughts in book 5.

    1/3 : I love my people. I don’t want them to suffer or be slaves.
    1/3 : Mereen ”war” going on.
    1/3 : GOD I JUST WANT DAARIO TO FUCK ME!

  60. Spryte
    Posted December 11, 2012 at 11:18 pm | Permalink

    Colty,

    You represent everything that’s wrong with Hollywood’s portrayal of women. Nothing is wrong with her arms, there is NO FAT on her. She’s beautiful. Look at yourself first and then GET A LIFE.

  61. loco73
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 12:18 am | Permalink

    Holly crap she is beautiful…painfully so! She was soo funny and cool and a pleasure to watch! I’d also like to see Peter Dinklage, Kit Harrington etc.

    Way to go Emilia! Khaleesi I bow to you!

  62. Virtus
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 12:25 am | Permalink

    Bryan Davis:
    Am I the only one left thats sooo friggin’ annoyed that people aren’t properly schooled on the names of the characters???She needs to stop referring to herself as Khaleesi, and start calling herself Danaerys Targaryen!!!!

    You yourself misspelled Daenarys…

  63. Nezzer
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 1:04 am | Permalink

    Virtus: You yourself misspelled Daenarys…

    That’s funny, because you also mispelled Daenerys LOL

  64. Colty
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 1:07 am | Permalink

    Spryte,

    I look fine…and there’s nothing wrong with hollywood’s portrayal of women. Especially women who are portraying characters who dwell in less than ideal environments. Girl looks like she’s been spending a little too much time in Qarth…which I guess is appropriate since that’s when we last saw her character ;)

  65. JamesD
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 1:17 am | Permalink

    Nezzer: That’s funny, because you also mispelled Daenerys LOL

    It’s even funnier that you misspelled ‘mispelled’.

  66. Bannerless Bro
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 1:17 am | Permalink

    She’s adorable; sadly the interview was too short, I really wanted to know more about why the hookers wanted to kill her.

  67. sek
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 1:37 am | Permalink

    Emilia is so lovely and beautiful. I really enjoyed the interview she came off so adorable and funny. Though I want more details about the hooker story lol

  68. mags giantsbabe
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 2:44 am | Permalink

    Amen, Queenofthorns, amen!!!

  69. Rhys
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 3:31 am | Permalink

    Spryte,

    Don’t feed the troll :D

  70. Abyss
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 5:35 am | Permalink

    OT:
    Here something quite unique…. – It seams Game of Thrones is everywere these days.^^
    Erotic content, could be not save for work! – Oh, and enoying skirl in the background…
    Found same more for the ladys.^^

  71. Mjoed
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 6:24 am | Permalink

    off-topic: http://www.google.com/zeitgeist/2012/#the-world – #6 for game of thrones in the tv section. quite impressive, especially since its #1 if you don’t cound reality tv and casting show-bullshit.

  72. Josla
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 7:44 am | Permalink

    Steven Swanson,

    Well, I hate him too… and I’m a girl. That said (in my case at least) I think I just don’t like his arrogance -I find him annoying-, but can also be that I always hoped MY BEAR was gonna win her eventually and now Daario is in the way.

    Did I mention that I worship Dany/Jorah like the children of the forest their old gods? Well, the thing I’m most excited to see in season 3 is THAT kiss!! Do you guys think that scene is gonna make it in the series? I was so fascinated by the mixed feelings Dany had (she obviously liked it, lol)

    Concerning the interview, Emilia is a lovely woman and a very good actress, I hope she get the attention she deserves.

  73. Josla
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 7:53 am | Permalink

    queenofthorns,

    I dont wanna see Danny/Missandei together either for god’s sake. Eek!

  74. sunspear
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 8:53 am | Permalink

    That isn’t Emilia Clark after the break.

  75. Winter Is Coming
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 9:18 am | Permalink

    sunspear:
    That isn’t Emilia Clark after the break.

    That was weird. It looks like I embedded the playlist so it was just randomly cycling through Jimmy Kimmel videos. It should be fixed now.

  76. queenofthorns
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 9:22 am | Permalink

    Josla: I always hoped MY BEAR was gonna win her eventually and now Daario is in the way.

    Did I mention that I worship Dany/Jorah like the children of the forest their old gods?

    I love Jorah (especially show-Jorah) and I worship Dany but I really don’t think that Daario is “in the way” of a realizable Jorah/Dany romance. This is Dany’s story, and she needs to be given the agency to choose to be with someone she’s actually attracted to (and not only physically, she also sees Jorah as a father/brother figure). She can’t help that she doesn’t feel the same way about Jorah as he does about her (in fact she feels really badly about it).

    I actually think that one of the few things they did well in Season 2 with Dany’s storyline was how clear it was that Dany was not receptive to Jorah’s increasingly obvious mooning… That it was just complicating things for her and interfering with their otherwise mutually beneficial friendship. I imagine that endgame for Dany (if she has one) is neither of these guys. They are hardly suitable husband material for Queen of Westeros.

    All that said I’m totally looking forward to “the kiss” because I love the DRAMA, plus the actors are both super sexy, mmm.

    Josla: I dont wanna see Danny/Missandei together either for god’s sake. Eek!

    Yeah it would be super wrong, since Missandei is supposed to be like 9 years old and they have this maternal relationship… I hope that the reason they aged up Missandei was to make filming easier, not so they could have gratuitous lesbian sex. It would have made some sense with Doreah or Irri, but the show runners put a stop to that.

  77. queenofthorns
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 9:30 am | Permalink

    Selmy:
    As for Daario. I’ve always hated him because I know he’s not good for Dany. Quaithe warned Dany against him, I think (?).

    Nope. Quaithe warned Dany about pretty much everyone in the universe except Daario (including at least Jorah, Tyrion, Aegon, Victarion, and Quentyn). Maybe you’re thinking about how Dany is constantly worried that he’s not really suitable for her and obviously isn’t a very good person. Which is why she keeps him at arms length even while fucking him with gusto whenever possible. :p

    He wants her because she has power and is fucking sexy. He’s not in love with her. He could easily betray her and he’s kind of divising Dany’s thoughts.

    Ya know, I kind of think GRRM is setting us up to be surprised, and for Daario to actually remain loyal to the (probably his) end. Dany might end up betraying him, in fact. If there’s anythign GRRM likes to do, it’s mess with ASOIAF nerds’ expectations. ;)

    Here is my take on her thoughts in book 5.
    1/3 : I love my people. I don’t want them to suffer or be slaves.
    1/3 : Mereen ”war” going on.
    1/3 : GOD I JUST WANT DAARIO TO FUCK ME!

    It’s not exactly fair to single her out. You could make a VERY similar list about Tyrion and Shae from book two and three. He thinks about fuking Shae or actually does it in every single chapter (Dany and Daario are shown to have sex in only one chapter). Or Jon and Ygritte for that matter. For the life of me I don’t know why readers are so much more sensitive to the Dany/Daario thing. Maybe it’s the young male demo at work.

  78. SillyMammo
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 3:16 pm | Permalink

    “There maybe…there-maybe.” So adorable! <3

  79. sedeyus
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 3:20 pm | Permalink

    I’m sorry, people. There will absolutely be a Dany/Miss sex scene. The one rule of this adaption: if there’s any way for D&D to porn up the series, they will.

    And yeah, I always thought Daario represented in character form, the absolute pointless of Meereen and that’s where most of the frustration comes with him. Dany’s not marrying him and he’s likely not to amount to anything.

  80. Nezzer
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 3:34 pm | Permalink

    JamesD: It’s even funnier that you misspelled ‘mispelled’.

    Yeah, seems like I did. Well, I’m not a native speaker, so I have a valid excuse, I guess =D

  81. Dan
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 5:23 pm | Permalink

    Queenofthorns,

    Um, no. The key is to neither be a whingeing, resentful, liar who pretends to be friends with women to get in their pants OR an asshole who fucks and runs. Try actually being a decent person and treating women like human beings. You’ll be surprised how well it works.

    Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that the key to getting women is to pretend to be friends with them or to be an asshole. I’m saying that being preceived as the “bad boy” is a lot more effective than being preceived as the “nice guy”.

    I’ll give you an example of what I mean. When I was 18 I used to be a bit of a romantic. There was this one girl that I had a huge crush on, and my way of winning her over was to give her anything she wanted. When she wanted to learn to drive a stick shift, I taught her. When she said she liked a particular song, I went and bought her the CD. When she said she liked when men wore a certain type of cologne, I started wearing it. And on and on. I would write her love letters, buy her flowers, and take her to all the awful romantic comedies she wanted to see. But every time I tried to get us to become more than just friends I would get shot down. She would always say she didn’t see me that way, and that she didn’t want to ruin our friendship.

    Then I went a few years without seeing this girl, and I had started dealing in less than legal activities, dropped the romantic gestures with women, and stopped putting women on a pedestal. So I run into her at a party, and we briefly got caught up, but for the rest of the night I completely ignored her. Every bone in my body wanted to spend the entire night talking to her, but I had learned that was a death knell when it came to most girls. Then about a week later she started calling me, but I just ignored her calls. I let this go on for a while and then eventually invited her to a party. Still, I didn’t want her to think I was still in to her, so I also asked for one of her girlfriends numbers to invite her. The night of the party I talked to virtually every girl there but her. By the end of the night she was throwing herself at me. She kept talking about how different I was, and how I was so “bad” now. In reality I was the same guy, but her perception of me had changed because I was simply playing games with her head.

    Now, I didn’t tell her any lies, pretend to be her friend, or act like an asshole. The whole reason I went from being “just a friend” to sleeping with her was because I acted like I wasn’t interested in her anymore, and she thought my lifestyle was “dangerous”. Unfortunately, these kind of games are a lot more successful than being a nice guy. I stopped playing them a while ago, but that doesn’t mean I can’t acknowledge that they are effective.

    One last thing, I don’t think guys are the only ones who play games. I’ve known plenty of girls who were masters at manipulating guys to get what they want. I messed around with a stripper for a while who would have guys take her shopping and then drop her off at MY place. It was really fascinating to watch this girl work dudes. Again, I’m not saying it is the right thing to do, but it is effective. The majority of people, guys and girls, want what they can’t have, and are attracted to what they perceive as dangerous.

  82. Joshua Taylor
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 6:04 pm | Permalink

    Dan,

    Morally questionable how you manipulated the girl to sleep with you but I agree with your assessment 100%.

  83. Dan
    Posted December 12, 2012 at 6:39 pm | Permalink

    Joshua Taylor,

    Oh, I agree about it being morally questionable. I don’t do it anymore. My early to mid 20′s self was just more interested in getting girls to sleep with me than the morality of how I accomplished that goal.

  84. Jen@House Stark
    Posted December 13, 2012 at 10:28 am | Permalink

    Wow, can she get more beautiful? Not. And I, for what it’s worth, liked Daario in the books very much and look forward to seeing him.

  85. Deme
    Posted December 13, 2012 at 10:36 am | Permalink

    Huzzah, Queen of Thorns!! Guys really don’t seem to get it.

    No Dan. You weren’t the same guy. You went from being the whining resentful liar to being a lying prick. You’re probably right though that guys who fake being tough or bad boys get more booty than guys who fake being a nice guy.

    Hopefully, you’ve figured out how to just be yourself and have gained enough confidence in yourself that you have other priorities than just trying to convince women to have sex.

  86. queenofthorns
    Posted December 13, 2012 at 11:34 am | Permalink

    Dan,

    I actually think what you wrote proves my point. When you say “my way of winning her over was to give her anything she wanted,” that shows that you were indeed faking friendship to get her into your bed. Women don’t like to be treated in this manipulative way – it’s super transparent and downright suffocating. Being on a pedestal isn’t fun. Most importantly, your behavior bears no resemblance to actually “being nice”.

    So why did she decide to sleep with you later? Probably because she was relieved that you were no longer so suffocating, cloying, and manipulative. It doesn’t sound like you were actually being a cruel to her at that party, just treating her like you would any other casual acquaintance. Maybe she thought you’d really changed (she was wrong, since you were still faking, just in the other direction).

    One last thing, I don’t think guys are the only ones who play games. I’ve known plenty of girls who were masters at manipulating guys to get what they want. I messed around with a stripper for a while who would have guys take her shopping and then drop her off at MY place.

    I don’t disagree. However, it really is the guy’s behavior that facilitates this (or more clearly, they facilitate each other). She sees these guys as manipulative, so she’s returning the favor. Honestly, it seems mutually beneficial if distasteful.

    Again, I’m not saying it is the right thing to do, but it is effective. The majority of people, guys and girls, want what they can’t have, and are attracted to what they perceive as dangerous.

    I disagree. It’s a small minority of insecure and immature people who engage in this type of behavior, on either side. This kind of tactic is “effective” for a certain minority, not the majority. And honestly the only people I’ve heard of who act this way are on the internet or in bad sitcoms/romcoms. Those of us who live in the real world are happily coupled, happily single, or happily having casual relationships with other mature people.

    Deme:
    You’re probably right though that guys who fake being tough or bad boys get more booty than guys who fake being a nice guy.

    MTE…

  87. Matt
    Posted December 13, 2012 at 11:57 am | Permalink

    Dudes every. single. person. i’ve spoken to who watches GOT refers to Dany as “Khaleesi”. every one. it’s just what casual viewers remember, and it’s time book fans get over it.

  88. Dan
    Posted December 13, 2012 at 3:04 pm | Permalink

    queenofthorns,

    When you say “my way of winning her over was to give her anything she wanted,” that shows that you were indeed faking friendship to get her into your bed.

    No, I wasn’t faking friendship to get her into bed. In fact, at that point in my life if she would’ve said let’s get married, but not have sex until we are, then I would have done it in a heart beat. I was head over heels for this girl. The reason I was willing to do anything she wanted was because I desperately wanted her to be my girlfriend. We used to spend hours upon hours talking on the phone, and I loved every minute of it. I loved every second I hung out with her. I wasn’t doing it because I was trying to get her bed. Heck, if she would’ve slept with me, I would’ve only fell more deeply in love with her. So you are way off on the intentions you attribute to me. I was a romantic at heart back then, and I thought one day she would feel the same way about me and we would spend our lives together. My 18 year old self wouldn’t have even considered doing anything to hurt this girl, and if someone else hurt her I was there to defend her. I beat the crap out of a good friend of mine for pushing her, and I threatened to end her abusive father if he ever came near her again. I’m still friends with this girl today even though neither of us would ever think of getting together in a relationship. The fact that you see the behavior of my 18 year old self as manipulative just furthers my point that being a nice guy typically doesn’t work.

    So why did she decide to sleep with you later? Probably because she was relieved that you were no longer so suffocating, cloying, and manipulative.

    No, I’m still friends with her. She’s told me why. She slept with me because she was jealous of the attention I was giving other girls and not her, and she always had a thing for bad boys, which she preceived me to be at the time. Also, I wasn’t being manipulative in the beginning, as I’ve said above. I’m being pretty forthright with my behavior, so you can either believe me or not, it makes no difference to me. Although, I’ll fully admit I was suffocating in the beginning.

    I don’t disagree. However, it really is the guy’s behavior that facilitates this (or more clearly, they facilitate each other). She sees these guys as manipulative, so she’s returning the favor. Honestly, it seems mutually beneficial if distasteful.

    Ha! If you knew this girl you would see how funny that statement is. She didn’t see these guys as manipulative. She saw them as marks. Heck, she used to manipulate other women just as much as men. This girl was the most conniving person I’ve ever met in my life. You seem to attribute any act where a guy does things for girls to be manipulative. Maybe it is in certain situations, but not all guys that try to win a girls affections with gifts and romantic gestures is trying to trick her into bed. Sometimes the guy just actually likes the girl and chooses that method to express their feelings.

    It’s a small minority of insecure and immature people who engage in this type of behavior, on either side. This kind of tactic is “effective” for a certain minority, not the majority. And honestly the only people I’ve heard of who act this way are on the internet or in bad sitcoms/romcoms.

    I think it’s way off to think that only a small minority want what they can’t have, and are attracted to what they preceive as dangerous. You may rarely come across people who behave this way, but I rarely come across people who don’t.

    Those of us who live in the real world are happily coupled, happily single, or happily having casual relationships with other mature people.

    Oh yeah, the real world is just filled with happy happy people.

  89. Dan
    Posted December 13, 2012 at 3:19 pm | Permalink

    Deme,

    I’m not sure why you are directing such a snide comment towards me. I already stated that I don’t endorse the manipulative things I did in the past, and said I no longer do those kind of things. I was a young man who had messed up priorities. I cared more about getting laid than most other things at the time. I’m sorry if my being honest about my past ruffles your feathers, but I can’t change my previous actions. I instead try to be honest with myself and others about things I’ve done, and try to learn from my successes and failures. I was simply being honest about my past actions and admitting that they were effective, not endorsing the behavior.

    Hopefully, you’ll figure out a more tactful way to have discussions with people, instead of making snide comments that contribute nothing but animosity.

    Also I wasn’t being a fake tough guy or a fake nice guy. I was a nice guy to her in the beginning, and didn’t fake it. I also never faked being a tough guy. I simply did what I did and a lot of women perceived me as a bad boy because of my actions. I wasn’t going around making up stories to sound tough. The manipulative things I did were around making girls jealous and to make them think I wasn’t interested in them. I wasn’t manipulating them into thinking I was a tough guy. They thought that on their own, and it wasn’t how I perceived myself.

  90. FicusFan
    Posted December 13, 2012 at 4:31 pm | Permalink

    I think one of the reasons fan boys hate Daario is because he not only gets Dany, but that it is Dany who chooses to have a meaningless sexual relationship with him. Good girls can have sex if they’re married, in love or forced.
    They aren’t supposed to have sexual ideas or feelings for their own gratification. Some have even posted on here about Dany’s character being damaged because she scratches a physical itch with Daario. I think many nerds object to ‘good’ women having sexual agency ( unless they are whores).
    I agree there is also anger and frustration due to the sloth and pointlessness of the Mereen story thread. I think both get mixed up.

  91. Lana
    Posted December 13, 2012 at 4:40 pm | Permalink

    Richard Madden; he gives the loveliest interviews.

  92. Dan
    Posted December 14, 2012 at 8:54 pm | Permalink

    Chris Umber,

    ^This

  93. Song
    Posted December 16, 2012 at 4:45 pm | Permalink

    Kimmel asks if she’s ever been in battle, and she immediately jumps to a story from Vietnam, but…seemingly without realizing the connection. She’s young! I would have loved if she had set it up with “Well, Jimmy, let me tell you a story from when I was in Nam.”

  94. El Beto
    Posted December 16, 2012 at 6:05 pm | Permalink

    Chris Umber:
    Um Guys? Aren’t we all missing the major headline to come out of this interview??

    EMILIA CLAKRE TO BE NAKED AGAIN IN SEASON THREE AFTER A FULL SEASON WITH CLOTHES ON!!!

    Well that’s what I took from this :D

    By your surprise I assume you’re a show fan but not a reader… Dany is one of the most sexual/erotic characters in the books… Well, actually she’s the most of all.
    I mean, apart from Cercei or Tyrion or Theon, there’s no other character with so many sexual events in their chapters.


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