Doctor Who and Reflections of a Couple

Every so often there is a moment on Doctor Who that really hits home. ‘The Husbands of River Song’ definitely had one of those moments.

Permit me, if you will, to speak on a personal level.

My fiancee, Leah, and I are two very different people in the way we handle emotions towards each other. She is a lot more demonstrative and open, while I tend to be a lot more reserved. She likes compliments and verbal acknowledgements, while I tend to place more emphasis on actions. I’m also not exactly great when it comes to speaking, as I have difficulty in trying to explain what is going on in my mind. While a great many of you would say that also pertains to my writing, that is a topic for another day.

This occasionally leads to issues with us. She will begin to think that I don’t care, since I’m wrapped up in my work and not acknowledging her. Meanwhile, I’m doing little things that I feel matter, and wondering why she isn’t picking up on them. She then starts thinking that I’m some distant person, while I tend to feel unappreciated.

So, while I’m certain that this look into our personal lives is fascinating for all of you, you’re probably wondering what this has to do with Doctor Who and when I’m going to get to the point. Well, right now.

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In a way, ‘The Husbands of River Song’ was a parallel to our relationship. When River had her monologue about the Doctor, stopping short as he was right behind her, and pausing before he said “Hello, sweetie,” I’m certain that quite a few people teared up. Leah certainly did, but there seemed to be a little more to it than the Doctor and River having a truly wonderful moment when they realized what they meant to one another.

Later that night, Leah mentioned that, in a lot of ways, River’s speech reminded her of how we are as a couple. Leah and River have a lot of the same traits in how they handle their emotions, as do the Doctor and I at times. And, like River and the Doctor, sometimes we either don’t realize, or we lose sight of how much we mean to one another.

Sometimes, it takes an outside catalyst to lead to a deeper connection with someone. In this case, it took a Christmas Special of Doctor Who that we watched together, during a break from packing for a move, to lead to a realization that is likely to strengthen us going forward.

Perhaps it is not a surprise that Doctor Who was a part of this. Considering that she introduced me to the show and also writes and edits for this site. The show is a major part of our lives. Now, it may have helped make our future even stronger.

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If you stuck around this long, thanks for reading this. And thanks to Leah for sticking around as well.